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每當(dāng)漆黑的夜晚降臨時(shí), 我常常獨(dú)自躺在床上, 思考很多東西. 這時(shí), 我會(huì)感到既平靜, 又恐慌. 平靜是因?yàn)槎厸]有了喧囂嘈雜,恐慌是因?yàn)槲乙鎸?duì)一個(gè)最真實(shí)的自己.
人有時(shí)真的很奇怪. 我們不喜歡別人欺騙自己, 但是, 有時(shí)欺騙自己最多的, 卻是我們自身. 我們常常抱怨別人不了解自己, 抱怨知己難覓, 然而很多時(shí)候, 連我們自己也不了解自己, 或者說, 哪怕我們了解自己的內(nèi)心, 卻由于種種原因無法按照自己的內(nèi)心世界來行走. 我們有太多的顧慮和無奈, 于是, 我們左閃右避, 試圖躲開那重重的障礙來達(dá)到生命的平衡和完臻, 但是當(dāng)我們走到盡頭時(shí)才發(fā)現(xiàn), 那并不是我們想要的終點(diǎn).
但是, 我從來不會(huì)埋怨別人不了解自己, 因?yàn)槲矣X得, 別人沒有義務(wù)要了解你. 而從某種程度來說, 我也不需要?jiǎng)e人了解, 因?yàn)橛袝r(shí)候被別人過分了解了并不是一件好事. 有時(shí)自己的某些想法會(huì)非常奇怪, 連自己一想起都會(huì)啞然失笑. 所以有時(shí)家人會(huì)開玩笑地說我有神經(jīng)病. 但是不管我的想法多么奇怪或者多么 “離經(jīng)叛道”, 一旦我決定了要做的事情, 我都會(huì)堅(jiān)定地走下去, 而不會(huì)被旁人所左右. 有時(shí)候我并不知道自己的決定是對(duì)還是錯(cuò), 但是我唯一明白的是, 有些事情如果我現(xiàn)在不做, 我以后想起來肯定會(huì)后悔的. 而如果我選擇錯(cuò)了, 我起碼也多了一份人生閱歷, 也不會(huì)感到有什么遺憾. 其實(shí)人生在世, 誰可以永遠(yuǎn)走得一帆風(fēng)順而不經(jīng)歷挫折的呢?
這讓我想起了昨晚和幾個(gè)朋友的聚餐. 其實(shí)昨晚是為海洋準(zhǔn)備去英國留學(xué)送行的. 她曾經(jīng)是我的學(xué)生, 跟我學(xué)雅思的. 她好不容易考過了雅思, 這個(gè)月末就要出發(fā)了. 昨天大家聊起來出國的事情, 她對(duì)我們說, 她的整個(gè)家族, 只有她父親才支持她留學(xué)的, 其他親戚, 不管是平時(shí)來往頻繁還是甚少來往的, 都反對(duì)她出國. 甚至在即將出國這個(gè)關(guān)節(jié)骨上, 她一個(gè)舅舅還打電話來勸她不要去, 說出國留學(xué)回來不見得會(huì)比不出國的好多少. 同樣的, 軍哥, 我的另一個(gè)學(xué)生, 也是如此, 在決定出國的事情上, 也同樣遭到家人和其他朋友的反對(duì). 我對(duì)他們說, 不管別人怎么反對(duì), 只要你自己有自己的想法就不要管別人怎么說, 只要堅(jiān)定地走下去就行了. 我不知道他們出國回來會(huì)和沒出國有多大的區(qū)別, 但是有一點(diǎn)我可以確定的是, 至今為止我還沒有見過有任何一留學(xué)生會(huì)后悔自己留過學(xué)的. 另外, 有時(shí)候做一件事情并不需要有太明確的計(jì)劃和目標(biāo), 因?yàn)橛袝r(shí)候你只是蒙蒙朧朧地覺得做某些東西將來是對(duì)自己有好處的, 可是究竟會(huì)給你帶來什么好處, 你自己可能并不清楚. 這時(shí)候, 如果你實(shí)在是很感興趣想去做的話, 那就放手去做, 只要你在這個(gè)過程中真的做到勤奮認(rèn)真, 把該學(xué)的東西學(xué)到就行了. 留學(xué)也是一樣的, 只要你在國外真的認(rèn)認(rèn)真真地學(xué)習(xí)了, 不管你所學(xué)的專業(yè)是否是你今后工作的方向, 都不要緊, 因?yàn)樵谀闩Φ倪^程中, 你的綜合能力也會(huì)得到很大的提升. 這就好比我當(dāng)時(shí)在邁瑞一樣. 邁瑞是一個(gè)醫(yī)療器械公司, 可是里面做國際銷售的, 真正是醫(yī)療背景出身的, 卻沒幾個(gè). 一個(gè)人的綜合能力提高了,不管讓他從事什么行業(yè), 只要是他感興趣的, 都會(huì)很快上手.
所以, 我現(xiàn)在發(fā)現(xiàn), 自己越來越變得一個(gè)很隨性的人. 只要我喜歡做一件事情, 我就會(huì)盡量去做. 我不會(huì)去思考它會(huì)給我?guī)矶嗌俳?jīng)濟(jì)利益, 或者說得更寬宏一點(diǎn), 帶來多少 “前景”. 這幾個(gè)月里, 我仿佛重新回到高中時(shí)代, 對(duì)文學(xué)小說和散文類的書非常感到興趣, 一本接一本地看. 剛好這段時(shí)間沒有正式的工作, 而是暫時(shí)當(dāng)雅思老師, 于是上課時(shí)間學(xué)生做練習(xí)時(shí)還有在地鐵上, 我都如饑似渴地讀書. 前段時(shí)間有一個(gè)網(wǎng)友對(duì)我說: “你覺得讀小說有用嗎?” 我反問他: “你覺得呢?” 他說: “我覺得一點(diǎn)用也沒有.” 我就說: “嗯, 那你就不要讀吧.” 他又問我: “那你為什么還讀?” 我說: “因?yàn)槲矣X得有用.” 這其實(shí)是一個(gè)很簡單的道理. 我們往往喜歡用自己的喜惡來判定別人的興趣愛好是否合理. 這是不正確的. 你覺得不好的東西, 在別人眼里并不一定不好; 你覺得做某些事情沒用, 不代表對(duì)別人也沒用. 這就好比聽歌一樣, 你覺得好聽的歌別人并不一定覺得好聽, 反之亦然.
有時(shí)候, 尊重和認(rèn)可別人和自己不同的想法和選擇, 是如此的困難! 學(xué)會(huì)欣賞別人的興趣愛好, 學(xué)會(huì)認(rèn)可別人的行動(dòng), 其實(shí)真的是一門很高深的學(xué)問. 這讓我想起余華說過的一句很經(jīng)典的話: 我們常常在知道的事物上發(fā)表不知道的看法. 這句話讓我思考良久. 有時(shí)候, 甚至連你最親的人, 也未必會(huì)支持和贊同你的一些想法, 更不要說旁人了. 當(dāng)然, 你想做的事情不能影響到你正常的工作和責(zé)任, 也不能為家人或者朋友帶來麻煩和不便, 否則別人不支持你也是正常的. 但除此之外, 如果你的選擇只是你一個(gè)人的事情, 那你不妨大膽地去做, 因?yàn)槟闶窃跒樽约憾钪? 而不是為了別人. 而一個(gè)真正大器之人, 是一個(gè)思想開放和包容, 懂得求同存異的人.
China lawmakers slam claim to islands by Hanoi
By Zhang Yunbi (China Daily)
China's top legislature strongly protested against Vietnam's "erroneous" new maritime law and urged its Vietnamese counterpart to make an "immediate correction".
Hanoi's disputes with Beijing in the South China Sea have given rise to frictions, and analysts said the passed law may internationalize the issue and bring a heavy blow to bilateral relations.
The Foreign Affairs Committee of The National People's Congress expressed its position concerning Vietnam's Thursday move in a letter to the Committee on Foreign Affairs of the Vietnamese National Assembly, Xinhua reported on Friday.
The Vietnamese Law of the Sea would include China's Xisha Islands and Nansha Islands in the South China Sea within Vietnam's so-called sovereignty and jurisdiction.
The NPC urged the Vietnamese lawmakers to pay substantial respect to China's territorial sovereignty, immediately correct its erroneous move and make due efforts to ensure the comprehensive strategic partnership between the two countries as well as the friendly relationship with its Chinese counterpart.
"It violates the consensus reached by leaders of both countries, as well as the principles of the Declaration on the Conduct of Parties in the South China Sea," the letter said.
China has indisputable sovereignty over the Xisha and Nansha islands and adjacent waters in the South China Sea, the NPC reiterated, asserting that Vietnam's move seriously infringed China's sovereignty and is illegal and invalid.
Chinese Vice-Foreign Minister Zhang Zhijun on Thursday summoned Vietnam's Ambassador to China Nguyen Van Tho to lodge a solemn representation.
Vietnamese Foreign Ministry spokesman Luong Thanh Nghi, however, said in a statement posted on the ministry's website late Thursday that Vietnam rejected China's protest.
The official Thanh Nien newspaper reported on Friday that the law will come into force in January 2013, AFP said.
Qi Jianguo, former Chinese ambassador to Vietnam, said Hanoi's Law of the Sea will not change the fact that China enjoys indisputable sovereignty and substantial control over the islands.
"Actually the Vietnamese National Assembly approved the Law on National Border in June 2003 to lay rival claim over China's Xisha Islands and Nansha Islands, yet the move made little difference," Qi said.
The South China Sea is believed to sit atop vast oil and gas deposits, and by passing the law, Vietnam is trying to involve more foreign countries and firms in resource exploration and development in the area, said Shu Zhenya, a researcher of China Institute for Marine Affairs under the State Oceanic Bureau.
"Hanoi wants to bundle up its interests with countries overseas, and the passed law provides a legal basis for internationalizing the South China Sea issue," Shu said in an online article.
Shu also urged a quickening of ocean-related legislation and administration to ensure China's maritime rights and interests.
As a move to improve administrative management on the islands, China has raised the administrative status of Xisha, Zhongsha and Nansha islands in the South China Sea from county level to prefectural level, according to an official statement from the Ministry of Civil Affairs on Thursday.
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